This is a guest post by Ryan Rivera.
As someone that works in anxiety, I’ve found that seniors are often the most undertreated population. Many seniors are struggling every day. They’re focused too much on their own mortality and limitations, and not focusing on living each day to the fullest.
I believe this is because seniors are taught that the older you are, the more you’re done accomplishing what you wish to accomplish. There is this belief that many seniors are just passing time while the youth control society.
The reality is that everyone’s life is important every day. It doesn’t matter if you’re one year old or 100 years old – each day is a blessing, and so each day is something you need to embrace. As Eckhart Tolle said, Learn to Live in the Now. But how do you seize the day when you are limited to what you can do and what you can accomplish?
Tips for Embracing Today
No one of any age should be reckless in a way that is dangerous for their health or others. But within reason, there is no reason to enjoy the things that long ago would have made you embarrassed or worried about your future. Have you ever wanted to dress up like a clown and hand lemons to strangers? Have you ever wanted to write an erotic novel? There is even a growing population of seniors that are taking up marijuana use. Things that could have embarrassed you before or possibly caused you problems are now fair game, because you’re at a point in your life where you’ve already worried about your future, and now you simply need to enjoy your present.
You also need to learn to embrace laughter. Make the idea of laughter your priority. If you watch TV, watch shows that are funny. If you like practical jokes, hide notes around the city with funny phrases on them and tell them to write you a letter if they find them. Visit standup comedy shows or spend time with your funniest friends. Do your best to be laughing every day, because laughter makes every day worthwhile.
There is also a very strong tendency for seniors to keep to themselves. But large groups of people bring the most joy. There are always stories to tell and experiences to be had. Spend time with as many people as you can, and meet new people. Schedule events if you have to and network. It doesn’t matter how you do it, what matters is that you find people to spend time with.
The value of this is that you have no reason not to spend as much time with others as possible. In the past, you may have had to deal more with work or family. Now you’re at a place and time where you can just sit back and have fun with friends. Find those with mutual interests and make sure that you’re giving yourself a chance to have fun.
Finally, give yourself goals. You should always have at least one goal. This can be to complete a novel, go on a specific trip, learn a language – anything you want.
Everyone of any age should always be looking to the future, and to do that you need to have something in the future that you’re working towards. Goals are the way to get there.
Once you have chosen your goal, then set up your action plan to achieve that goal. Be very realistic in doing so and make sure that you will be able to put in the time and effort you decide. The aim is not to complete the goal as quickly as possible but rather to ensure that you do make your goal. So set a program that you will enjoy doing.
Embrace Yourself and Live a Great Life
Sure, there are always going to be limitations that occur when you get older. But there are also limitations to being younger. You’re at a place where you can live for yourself, and you shouldn’t let aging hold you back. Learn to embrace who you are and what you can do, and every day will be as joyous as it should be.
Author Bio: Ryan Rivera writes about coping with anxiety on his website, which can be found at www.calmclinic.com.
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